Jul 21, 2007

Homework No 1 : About judging people

Madam JLT : Hereby I submit my homework no.1 :) Please let me know if I cleared the exam! Pappu paas ho gaya kya?

Yes, I do judge people based on their behaviour. Judge is not the right word, I would say my first impression of people are based on certain observations. Its a different story that most and many a times, my views change. So, first impressions are not necessarily the last impressions, and yet there are certain habits which I loathe. I can really like someone and yet hate a particular habit of theirs! In that sense, I guess I am tolerant.
So, here they are. The habits that make me loose my patience!

  1. Not being on time : Yes, its a habit I simply cant relate to. Whether its some submission, or attending some party, or rushing to catch the train (JLT, please dont look at me like that!) Last minute rush makes me a nervous wreck, and so when I see others doing that, I feel like screaming "fire fire". OK. OK. The problem lies within me. Its time to indulge in meditation!
  2. Bragging : I certainly stay away from people who brag a lot. People who cant have enough of I's and My's in their sentences. "I did this", "I made that", "My son did this", "My daughter bought that". Oh Boy! I feel like telling them "Please come out of that well". There is a world beyond "I". There are 25 other alphabets too.
  3. Two-timing : Saying something on your face and then talking behind your back! I am wary of such people. Yes, I have met them in real life. Chameleon would feel insulted, if I called them by that name. My problem again! I trust people too much I guess.
  4. Politics: I hate people who are short of abilities and yet come up in life using their charm and other unscrupulous ways! Call me envious, if you wish, but I get disturbed when undeserving people get awards. I also know that politics is a universal concept. Yet, I wish life was simpler.
  5. Preaching: I hate nitpickers. I do not like someone standing behind my back when I am doing something. I do not like it when people decide that I am new to earth and they take upon them the onus to convert me into a normal human being.
  6. Frown: Oh well! I do not feel comfortable with such people who have a perpetual grim look on their face. I feel their negative vibes seeping into me. I feel that maybe they dont like me and that sure is not a good feeling.
  7. Complaining: Kick me for saying this but I would generally avoid the complaining kind of people - people who are just waiting to pour their woes inside the next pair of ears. I am sympathetic for them but then why cant we also discuss happy moments!

I know I can go on but I guess I will stop at 7. Suddenly, I am seeing myself in a new light. In listing the qualities I do not like, I suddenly find meaning in the statement " people who live in glass houses..." etc! Its time for some introspection now!

10 comments:

Ardra July 22, 2007 at 10:33 AM  

Hi!
i came here from HHgranmoms page- wnet thru u'r earlier posts too. shall keep comin back...
just wanted to say a few things, I miss my brother too- a lot- he is six yrs younger..he is in Canada with his family- sooo far away...

hope your daughter's problem with that bully girl has been solved...

can relate to your fears abt old age disabilities...

Just Like That July 22, 2007 at 7:17 PM  

Hmmm.. how many marks does Pappu think he'll get? will 8/10 do?

Sheesh- this post was meant to be a lot more mean minded, but how do you manage to come out of it, smelling of roses?

I share all your pet peeves too, even the 'late' one. while I follow the JIT policy, I do not appreciate being kept waiting, or keeping somebody waiting.

~nm July 23, 2007 at 3:49 PM  

Your pt 5 applies to my DH qutie a bit. But now he avoids doign that :D He would come and stand next to me while I would cook and tell me I should be doing things the other way. Ine day I very sweetly told him to mak the subzi his way and I will watch. Never heard from him about his special comments again when I was cooking :D

WhatsInAName July 23, 2007 at 4:06 PM  

Ardra :
Thank you so much for stopping by. I would love to have your comments. Yes, my daughters problems have solved. She solved it herself :)

JLT:
Wow! You made my day :) I passed with disticntion! Nah, as I said, I cant afford to be mean when I myself am living in a glass house :)

NM:
LOL. So, your DH is a great cook? Good for you :)

Asha July 24, 2007 at 10:11 AM  

Oh God! I could append your list to mine. Each and every second I feel that I can add more to the list. Am I that bad? But as you said, every person has got some negatives and there are many people out there whom we like a lot even if we don't like some of their habits. Everyone knows that no one is perfect.

Usha July 25, 2007 at 7:54 AM  

I guess most of the things you hate are those that are quite hateable.
Come one there must be some totally innocuous habits that put you off - come on tell us about them.

WhatsInAName July 25, 2007 at 10:27 AM  

Asha :
Yeah even I felt the same when I read other's confessions :) BTW, welcome to my page.

Usha :
hmmm... After reading your and JLT's comments, I guess I will have to redo my homework! Sigh :)

dame's diary July 26, 2007 at 5:45 PM  

I am guilty!

7 is my forte!! I am sure you have figured it through my blog!!

hehe

;)

Hip Grandma July 28, 2007 at 7:50 AM  

Me too!!I am with you in all you say.Ditto.

WhatsInAName July 28, 2007 at 11:08 AM  

Dame :) Yeah I saw that

H'gma : I am glad you agree to the list. This was a tough homework for me!

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